conversation of one

Sometimes I talk to other people and it's like talking to a wall. I start and finish the conversation, I ask all the questions, and then I volunteer information about myself related to the topic of discussion. This is something I don't mind, especially when I am talking to somebody who is younger and is really shy. However, it just gets frustrating when it's a peer!

With that said, I think that it is only frustrating in the case where you want to forge and develop a relationship with that person. This is because the one-sided conversation reveals that 1) they are not that interested in learning about things about you, 2) if they are interested, they are not trying that hard, or 3) they really don't want to be talking to you and are waiting for you to stop jabbering on and asking questions to fill the dead space. (Upon further reflection, I am sure that other people feel that way about their conversations with me...! Guilty as charged - I am not always engaging nor am I always interested in the other party.)


Horrible conversational experiences as described above are thankfully redeemed by honest, sincere, and meaty conversations that one may have with other friends. Last Wednesday, I had one of the most awkward conversations I have had in a long time and then a few hours later, I had one of the best conversations I have had in a long time. It was refreshing and encouraging and made me realize that I want to pursue and push relationships to the point where I and the other party can speak openly and frankly about the things on our hearts. It is unrealistic to think that every relationship in my life carries that ability but wow, life would be so much richer if they did.